I don’t know about you, but here in this house, we get a lot of bad behaviour and I feel as though I am always focusing on it. Awhile back, I spoke to a friend of mine who has two boys and they were trying to focus on the good behaviour. I thought hmm, this is interesting, how does it work?? He told me, anytime they were making good choices, they would receive a pompom that would go in a jar. Once the jar was full, they received a reward. I thought this was a genius idea.
See, in my house, we have lots of fighting, roughhousing, and never-ending tattle telling. Here is a glimpse of what I hear in a day:
– “mom, he punched me”
– “mom he kicked me”
– “mom he said I’m stupid”
– “I hate you mom!”
– “No, I don’t want to go in time-out”
– “I’m never going to listen to you, ever!!”
So what did I do?? I went on Pinterest…I mean, that site has it all. I quickly found what I was looking for. I started to search for good behavioural charts, and some were ok, but not quite 100%. So I decided to make my own using the good old fashion Microsoft Excel program.
I wanted to personalize my chart to help my kids focus on certain behaviours. For example, I have received a couple of phone calls from the kindergarten teacher telling me how my older son has not been listening in school or my middle child, as you all know, does not go to bed very well. I decided to add these two behaviours in my chart to focus on being good at school and going to bed nicely. Check it out:
As you can see, I focused on different tasks such as feeding the dogs, vacuuming, dusting, practicing piano, cleaning up after a meal etc. Every time they complete a task, they receive a sticker. At the end of the week, I count them up and add the total to the rewards sheet. I added a few different rewards as goals to work towards. The kids love it!
One thing my friend did mention that we do here as well, if the child does a bad behaviour, they don’t lose a sticker. Can’t use this as a threat, it’s meant to encourage good behaviour. The only downfall that I have noticed? Sometimes I will ask one of the boys to help me with something and they quickly ask, “do I get a sticker for helping?”. Nope, that’s not how it works buddy, sometimes it’s just nice to help others out.
Now, how does it work in your household? How do you manage the good/bad behaviours??? I would love to know how others are doing and maybe trying to apply more strategies in our house. The more the merrier.